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Post by outdoorbob on Sept 21, 2009 23:47:17 GMT -6
Thanks Randy. I don't claim to be the perfect dad in any way. As a matter of fact I blew it badly on several occasions. I even ran my son off from home about this time last year after a fight with the "mistress" and took it out on him. But he's 20 now and I seriously doubt he has ever tasted alcohol in any way. I can't know 100% but I'm 99.99999. My dad and I started him out squirrel, deer, and turkey hunting early and kept hime focused on that. He doesn't hunt much now between technical school and working part-time at Pizza Hut, but just as soon as he graduates I'm gonna get him right back out there if possible. I've told tons of people over the years to get their kids involved in hunting and fishing. Fortunately with my job I met and talked with a lot of troubled teens and I just hope that my speeches to them turned some of them away from the world and all it has to offer (trouble). Bob
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Post by sksfordman on Sept 22, 2009 9:29:24 GMT -6
I don't think their is such a thing as a "perfect" dad, I sure know I haven't been. I did give my son more than I ought to. He grew up not appreciating the things he had, and when he started driving, I did not no longer know who he was hanging out with. Hunting kids can get themselves in trouble too, my cousins boys were raised hunting from day one, and they have been into drugs themselves, and one of my cousins boy's (not Dewayne) got hooked on meth so bad he lost all his teeth, but he is now clean, and married and doing good. So I commend you and your dad for what your son has accomplished in his young life. Randy
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Post by jug on Sept 22, 2009 10:31:19 GMT -6
Randy we do the best we can do being parents. And what happens to our kids is not always our fault.
We can only do what we think is right for our kids. If parenting was a test a lot of us would fail. Thank goodness we don't have to take a test to be a parent.
God gives us our kids for a little while to love and nurture them. Then they are His.
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Post by ibugly on Sept 22, 2009 11:11:48 GMT -6
A preacher I knew said when they are kids they walk all over your toes. When they get older they walk all over your heart. Got one started doing that at age 32 thereabouts. Had to turn her over to The Lord as her problems are bigger than what we can deal with and can't allow her to take the family down with her.
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Post by jug on Sept 22, 2009 11:21:17 GMT -6
I've heard that too IB. My Grandmaw told me when my first was born to "let kids be kids because they are too soon gone" and it's true. It seems the years fly by when they are young and we turn around a time or two and they are graduating High School.
I sure do miss those days.
All we can do is be there for our adult kids. I don't believe in parents interferring but I do believe we need to let our kids know we care and are there for them. They can have problems we don't know how to handle and you have done the right thing IB, turning your gal over to the Lord. He will watch over her and show her the right way.
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Post by ibugly on Sept 22, 2009 19:53:36 GMT -6
If she don't change soon she's gonna die. Veins are sticking out, very skinny now, and her face was real red. 36 going on 45 or older in looks. Her mom looks younger and she's 58. We was talking to our sawbones yesterday and he told us what we already knew. But he said she's likely been using and abusing a very long time. We just caught on about 3 years ago and we both knew what to look for. She kept it hid real good.
Only time we got involved in her adult problems was when we was dragged into it. I'd go try and help straighten things out and get blamed for it. We eventually had to step in for the grand-kids. I can tell you this much. Family can't take care of family no more because the state won't allow it. If you're dealing with a wayward parent the state expects you to be their enabler and will dangle the grand kids over your head as a means to get you to do so. Last two years showed me things I never thought would happen in this nation much less my state. I know GOD has the answers because I sure don't anymore.
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Post by caretaker on Sept 22, 2009 20:23:47 GMT -6
I raised my daughter by myself from the time she was 5 years old when her mother and divorced. When she was 16 I remarried and she deided to go live with her mother and 1/2 sister. We kinda drifted apart and became strangers. i am happy to say we have got back together and I am enjoying her, her husand and my 3 year old grandson.
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Post by sksfordman on Sept 22, 2009 20:55:15 GMT -6
Ain't nothing like a grandkid. i just spent about 45 minutes on the floor with my 2 oldest grandsons, thay like to get on me and while I lay on my side, they "try" to stay up there, while I wrestle them into submission, or just sweep them of. The soon to be 9yr old, is getting about to bib to play the game with, so he wants to wrestle, and try to hold and pin me down, so far I have been able to handle, or get my bluff in on him. Right now the 3 year old is a push over, and he has a ball. The three year old is the one who came and asked me to get in the floor. I sometimes get them in a reverse head lock with their head to my rear, and sneak in a little poot on them. I apologize if that offends anyone, or the thought of it turns your nose, but I play and poot sometimes, and make the best of it when I can!!
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Post by ibugly on Sept 22, 2009 21:31:36 GMT -6
He any hold is legal :>} My grandson would try to take off running and jump on my back if I was in the floor.
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Post by sksfordman on Sept 22, 2009 23:18:19 GMT -6
I know what you mean. They love to get me in the floor. I stronger on the floor than standing on it!
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Post by fyimo on Oct 2, 2009 8:36:41 GMT -6
I have been retired since 2002 and before that I ran the manufacturing for a information company in Denver where we bult data bases for online users. The data bases were Military Specifications, Industry Standards, and Vendor Catalog technical data.
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Post by sksfordman on Oct 2, 2009 22:44:55 GMT -6
I would imagine that was an interesting job fyimo!! But there ain't nothing as interesting as retirement, at least there's not been so far. Randy
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Post by pajack on Oct 24, 2009 8:52:25 GMT -6
Disabled now due to MS but I worked in a prison before...
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Post by sksfordman on Oct 24, 2009 9:13:39 GMT -6
My sister is being treated for MS Jack. She has been Disabled for 11 years due to Fibromyalgia, but started having a lot of nerve loss, all over her back, and shoulders, along with other areas of her body. We hope to become good friends with you Jack. We have several disabled members, and some great able bodied friends on our forum. Glad to have you here!! Randy
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Post by ibugly on Oct 24, 2009 18:18:30 GMT -6
Disabled now due to MS but I worked in a prison before... I've got an old Navy friend who was a guard in Maryland. He retired later as a trainer. On the ship we had a satire WW2 poster of a woman saying "Gee I wish I were a man I'd become a prison guard". He took it serious I guess.
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